Leaving the Light On

October 5, 2015

Welcome! This blog/website/whatever you want to call it is something that many friends and most recently my kids have encouraged me to do. Maybe it’s because they think if I write what’s crammed in my mind that I won’t talk to them as much. I don’t think they will be that lucky. My name is Julie and I am married to a man who is my complete opposite. His name is Wayne and he’s kind, gentle, more patient than I am and a perfectionist. And most importantly, he loves the Lord and consistently tries to point his family toward the Light.

You will see that the word “light” is a very important word to me and takes on different applications. Wayne knows me inside and out and can talk me down when needed. It’s taken him over 20 years to come close to understanding the complexities that I possess. We have three children whose presence I love. Jack is 18 and for some reason thought going off to college in August was a good idea. Caroline is 17 and also thinks it will be a good idea to leave and go to college in two years (she’s a junior in high school). Elizabeth (or Lizzie, depending on my mood of the day) is 14 and a freshman in high school and doesn’t want to talk to me about going to college. Smart girl. Maybe she thinks I’ll start the ugly cry and not be able to stop. I guess I thought we would keep having groundhog day around here with everyone freezing at their current age. So when this past August came and we had to move Jack to Baylor University, I wasn’t prepared for the shock. IMG_0710

My sister (who has successfully launched three amazing boys into the real world) told me “leaving a light” on in Jack’s room would help. I guess I just thought I would sashay by his room daily and not look in there, which would keep me in denial that he was gone to college. But I took my sister’s advice and started leaving the light on by his bed and to my surprise, it actually made me feel better. Looking at a dark room represented a loss and the light somehow dispelled that…as crazy as that sounds. Wayne would turn the light off because the practical side of him thought we were wasting electricity.  He quickly realized it was in his best interest to let me leave it on each day…The term “leaving the light on” made me also start thinking of the importance of having light in my life and the intentionality of turning the light on. I have learned that I can choose to turn it on or turn it off.  Light is cozy, warm, shows you what you need, shows you where you are (which is especially important if you get up in the middle of the night and don’t want to face plant into the wall like I have done). Light also represents home to me. And thanks to my amazing homemaker mom, a home full of light includes food. And lots of it. So I am going to be adding some easy recipes that I love and have made time and time again for people (primarily hungry teenagers) over the years.  I’ll include some fun table decor for different holidays and events. I’m also going to include some blog posts, be it in a sheer storytelling way or with a spiritual bent.

I’ve learned the hard way sometimes when it comes to parenting and spiritual stuff and would love to help someone else learn from my mistakes. Some of the craziest stuff can happen within my family – especially when it comes to family vacation, which is why my first blog post is from our RV Trip to Big Bend almost two years ago. So the name of this blog Leaving the Light On was born from the fact that my son went to college. It also made me realize that the only true and long lasting light that can illuminate my life is the light of Christ. Thanks for visiting and I hope that you will leave a light on in your life as well!

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  • bibi October 13, 2016 at 11:02 am

    Julie, I truly enjoyed your story and will definitely be having a light on in my kid’s empty room now! I love you all the more for sharing this and bringing light into so many hearts… Your great big smile that sparkles in your eyes is “a light on” in my heart that has been shining since 1978… can you believe that!???!?!? Love ya’ girl, thnx again!

    • jvwiesen October 13, 2016 at 8:03 pm

      Bibi, you are too kind! I love connecting with old friends!!! Hope you are well!!

  • Marci Kacal October 11, 2016 at 9:42 pm

    Loved your story! So happy to have reconnected and found your blog. I look forward to reading more posts!

    • jvwiesen October 13, 2016 at 8:11 pm

      Thank you, Marci!!!

  • Diana Dobson October 11, 2016 at 5:33 pm

    Julie, so proud you are doing this and I feel your pain! I am an official empty nester and having a hard time being without my kids! Looking forward to reading more!!

  • Lynne October 7, 2015 at 9:18 am

    Julie, I loved reading your blog and look forward to reading more.

  • Jessica Bucio October 6, 2015 at 11:46 pm

    I LOVE THIS!!! Warmed my heart reading through every word you have written so far
    Thanks for sharing and looking forward to more 🙂


  • Mary Lou October 6, 2015 at 6:33 pm

    Wow Julie! With tears in my eyes and “a frog in my throat” I went and turned the light on in both of my college girl’s rooms. You are a gifted writer with the ability to make your readers feel!

  • Kim October 6, 2015 at 4:11 pm

    Julie, this is lovely, touching and fun to read. Good job. You help to keep the light on in my life!

  • Brooks Mcgee October 6, 2015 at 3:59 pm

    Julie you are a very gifted writer – sort of a combination of Erma Bombeck, Peggy Noonan, Leigh McElroy and Ron White.

    I am proud to be a charter subscriber

    • jvwiesen October 9, 2015 at 9:12 am

      Oh, Brooks…you know you will somehow show up in one of my stories…

  • Pam Czuba October 6, 2015 at 3:10 pm

    Julie–this is fabulous. Love your way with words and transparency. So glad you’re stepping out in faith. The Lord is using you and your talents in a mighty big way. Love this.

  • Martha Chance October 6, 2015 at 2:49 pm

    Just cried after reading this. Thanks for not being super happy that you’re emptying your nest. It’s a difficult adjustment. Can’t wait to read more!

    • jvwiesen October 9, 2015 at 6:57 am

      It has been so strange having Jack gone…?

  • Cathy Wertheimer October 6, 2015 at 2:06 pm

    Love this Julie!! Can’t wait to read every bit of it!!!

    • jvwiesen October 9, 2015 at 6:57 am

      I am sure one of my blogs will include a fitness fail…?

  • Tracy Pedersen October 6, 2015 at 1:55 pm

    I can’t wait to read what crazy lies within you. We may just be kindreds! Totally teared up at the light on in the empty room. I may start doing that now!

    • jvwiesen October 9, 2015 at 6:56 am

      Crazy. Who’s crazy? ?

  • Jill Bechtold October 6, 2015 at 1:40 pm

    This is fantastic, Ju Ju! Pretty amazing how God can take our heartaches & turn them into something beautiful…like this blog of yours!
    So proud of my little sister!!

    • jvwiesen October 9, 2015 at 6:56 am

      Thanks for being part of the brain child behind all this!

  • Carol Townsend October 6, 2015 at 1:40 pm

    Go girl! So proud of you. This is absolutely what you should be doing. We all know that behind that awesome wit is an incredible bright, logical, and spiritual being! Thank you for sharing it with us!!

    • jvwiesen October 9, 2015 at 6:55 am


  • Becke Burns October 6, 2015 at 12:44 pm

    This is great Julie!! Can’t wait to read your blog. You will have so many great things to say and so many different ways to make us laugh!

    • jvwiesen October 9, 2015 at 6:55 am

      If we don’t laugh, then we will….try to laugh!

  • Kristi dodson October 6, 2015 at 12:33 pm

    Love this, Julie! I’m sitting in an airport and so happy my flight is delayed so I can savor your blog! So proud of you for doing this and can’t wait to enjoy your posts!

    • jvwiesen October 9, 2015 at 6:54 am

      You have to share some of your recipes. If you can get them out of your head and onto paper! ??

  • Angelina Shanklin October 6, 2015 at 12:05 pm

    So proud of you for stepping into the unknown blog world. Can’t wait to keep reading and cookin’ — looking forward to your next entry. XOXO

    • jvwiesen October 9, 2015 at 6:54 am

      Here we go, huh?? ??

  • Jamie Gauthreaux October 6, 2015 at 11:53 am

    So amazing. Your blog fills my heart with joy. What a sweet sentiment. Reeves now resides in James’ room and leaves the light on. 🙂
    Miss you.

    • jvwiesen October 9, 2015 at 6:53 am